Today my girlfriend came home from work after a long day and I missed the girl so when she gets home on my bebe come here come load me for a little bit so we didn't lay down for like an hour and a half after she got home from work and we were just talking about how we've grown how we've healed you know the things that we've overcome and we try to check in like every it's not like an exact date but we check in excuse me oh I'm so tired but yeah anyway so we didn't check them with each other we check in maybe I don't know like every half a week every week or so and see how we're growing see how we're healing like what the other one can do to help the other one out if there is and it's like it's not like we set a time and date to have these conversations it's just whenever we feel like having them then we do and it has been so beneficial and it's so eye-opening you know to talk to someone and just communicate like a lot of people talk but they don't communicate they don't open up they don't share they don't they're not open with one another and that is definitely important to have in a relationship so this is your sign to talk with your partner and check in with each other like check in and let the other person know like hey I'm feeling this way if you can do this for me that'd be a bet like if you see me acting this way can you just like remind me because I know I want to do it but like y'all can keep each other accountable and it's a game changer and I'm so blessed that I have that with my partner and I just want to let you guys know that that's a possibility if it's not in your relationship it can happen you just both need to want it.
You know I think you don't need to heal yourself completely before you start a relationship but you should know your downfalls and what you need to work on and healing in a relationship is totally viable I mean you have to make sure your new place where you can be successful but also you don't have to be perfect
Amen John, the things that you be saying are very unpoint. Most definitely. A lot of people think that you need to be completely healed before and you're in a relationship and that's not fair. Like why would you limit yourself to living you know and having a connection with someone because you're not perfect. No one is perfect. As long as you know your downfalls and you're working on it. That's all that matters.
I think you're raising a very, very good point in this and I love that for you and your partner that you're able to have that. And I think when you start communicating in this way, it's like, it's mind-opening and it brings you so much closer to one another because it really lets you in on all the small details of how they are and how they're doing and how they can improve or like the relationship in general as well. And I think it's very important to have those conversations.
Yeah, definitely. I think you make a very good point about us not fully being completely, completely healed. You know, so knowing that it's okay to not be completely healed doesn't mean that you're broken and that you're not worthy. You know, that you're still able to be in a relationship, have fulfilling friendships, be a fulfilled person as well. and still love yourself through your flaws.
And especially having a relationship that allows you to both heal, both grow, both be solid. is um it's definitely a valuable and it's something great to have so thank you
I really like this. I really like what you had to say here. I was gonna say question but no, I really like this conversation because Yes, check-ins are very very vital. I feel like for relationships But also yeah, it is nice to like know and see how far you guys have come Um, I think that's really huge and I'm so happy for you guys. That's dope