So I want to talk to you guys about who pays on the first date. Hmm, great question. Especially coming from a lesbian, like asking other fellow gay people who pays for the date. Because if it's a guy and a guy who pays, if it's a girl and a girl who pays, I feel like just whoever wants to pay can pay. There's literally no problem. I mean it's kind of like a double standard thinking like talking about straight couples and you know seeing as a guy should always pay for the date on for the girl on the first date. That's a whole nother topic. I'm not going to get in all of that. But as far as gay and lesbian relationships go, what do y'all think? Do you think that you know if the girl is if one of the girls is a little bit more masculine than she needs to pay or if one of the guys is more masculine, he needs to pay like what is your go-to as far as whenever I took my girlfriend out I paid it doesn't it's just whoever and then the next day she actually paid like it I feel like it should be half and half there's not a one way or another way is whatever works for that relationship for those two individuals, you know?
I feel like if you are the person that's asking them out on the date, I feel like clearly you're trying to impress them. So the person that asks maybe should be the one that pays for it, but I feel like they just should be prepared. Now I feel like if you're communicating like, hey, to the other person, like, you know, hey, I don't have a lot of funds, but I really do want to like go out somewhere. Do you mind if like, you know, maybe we split it beforehand, you know?
But once again, I think it just kind of depends on... I mean like, I don't know, it just has to be talked about. for sure it just has to be talked about.
I heard, okay, okay. Yeah, honestly, I agree. If someone asks you all for a date, they know the intention. They're expecting that. They need to plan to pay for that. And come with the intent to just pay for it. And if the other person wants to offer, and you guys really want to decide on that, then I don't know, that's fine, just share. But for me, someone asked me out on a date, of their brain.
I think the person that asked to go out should pay for the date and that's why I don't ask people to take me out so I think the person that has who told y'all hey we're going out here is the one that pays
Yes, I do agree with you the same mentality of someone asks, then they are open to paying for both. You know, they're like, hey, like, do you want to go here? Hey, can I take you out here? If you ask for my time, don't expect me to just automatically want to spend. Like, you know, do a little some more than just an invite. Pay a little.
Because it's like my time is valuable so if I was not here on the date I could possibly be making somewhere else working or on my side hustle or whatever just period making money so if you're making me come out with you give you my time and my money on the first date no sir no ma'am
Pay is for the first date. The man, I'm traditional when it comes to that. But other than that, I feel like at that point, if you guys want to, if she wants to pay, she wants to pay. But I'm all about the traditional guy, get a guy paying on the first date, paying on, you know, really all the dates or most of the dates. Like, if she wants to take you out, she can take you out and pay for it and do things like that. Most of the time, Mr. Guy.
Fasha, yeah I agree with you Sean, like I do agree we're gonna have those people saying oh that's you know like you guys are talking about gender roles etc etc etc but like I'm with the whole gentleman type of thing Fasha and general woman on my end.
Can I ask why you wouldn't pay for the person on the date? This is if... Okay, so let's say you asked the girl out. Would you expect it to be split or would you just take the bill?
Technically I don't care what anyone thinks or anyone says were in the Stone Age a lot of girls that go on dates they expect a man to pay for them however realistically they're just there for free food call me silly call me dumb but yeah that's just my opinion and I don't want guys out here being tricked by girls that go support the Bros