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The new question of the day. So what is one thing that you have learned from dealing with your ex? Whether if it's something you learned about yourself or how you deal with others, let us know.
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First of all, I learned how to duck. But mostly I learned how to build myself, heal and love myself, especially after being torn down for so long.
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I appreciate you, Miss Brooklyn.
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I am definitely with you sis. I had to denounce that motherfucker. I was with him for 10 years and I had to find me and yes I was I wasn't in love. I was just lusting. I'm just gonna be honest.
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Me personally, I've learned to value my time, my energy so much more because the point of, you know, feeling drained trying to go back and forth is not worth it. Like that push and pull, I'm not trying to play tug of war.
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To actually sit down and look at the pros and cons of my life's relationship. Because I would say it was something good though, but towards the end, the bad always the good. Okay, what can be different so that it doesn't happen?
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So that it does not happen again because if that's the case it's just a cycle repeated and if you're going nowhere it's basically the definition of insanity. So definitely learn how to value my time my energy my focus and to know what I want.
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If I continue to allow my boundaries to be broken, I'm no longer a victim, but rather a volunteer.
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Well said, I love that. I am not a victim. Yes, I love it.
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Don't waste your time. I mean this shit can go for hours, but I'm gonna make this small, you know what I'm saying? Don't waste your time on someone who's showing you they don't value you or they want to be with you.
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Hashtag ****, because it's not worth it. I agree.
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Hey, what's good in Brooklyn? Where Brooklyn at? Listen, I've earned a lot and learned a lot from X's. Number one is they all X for a reason.
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Brooklyn in the house, what's up? I let one ex back for six months. That was the worst mistake I ever made. He proceeded to tell me that he could not love me because I didn't know how to love because I was too independent.
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That's right. But now I also learned, you know, you have to grow and change and sometimes you can't take people with you. You know what I'm saying? It just is what it is. But it's still all love though.
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I learned that mixed signals means no. Confusing signals means no. If they're not being straightforward with what they want, just move on with your life.
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I learned that if they don't have their stuff together or their life together for themselves, they are definitely not going to change and get their life together for you.
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Wow, that's deep too. Actually, hashtag facts. You gotta let them do them. Don't try to, um, insert yourself and be their superhero. They gotta be their own superhero. Amen.
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Oh yeah, definitely. And you know, I was with this guy for five years. That was- he was eight years older than me. So I assumed he had his life together because he was older. Nope, not the case whatsoever. Actually the opposite.
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to say no, it helped me learn how to stand my guard when I say no. So yeah.
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I think that I had to learn how to say no to because I was a yes girl. Whatever you want to do and it was hard to say no to someone that you thought you was in love with. Yeah, that's a good lesson.
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