I know this is gonna get a little messy because I've already heard this conversation on another thread on a different platform And I just want to bring it here to hear your guys's perspective But would you be okay if your best friend and your partner? I'm talking about girlfriend boyfriend Wife husband, whatever being close. I'm talking about if they hang out without you or they have inside jokes or you know, whatever Whatever. Would you be okay with that? Or is that straight up disrespectful? Let me know because I would love to hear what boundaries you have in terms of your relationship with your best friend and, you know, your partner.
In any relationship, trust is important. Now, my mate having a best friend, a male, that they're close to, you know, I understand people gonna have friends and if you ditch your friends because of a relationship, there's a problem. Now, how close they are, those inside jokes, So you gonna tell me about them inside jokes.
I totally agree that trust is important, but what I'm asking is more so like if you have your partner say like your significant other, right? And they are hanging out with your best friend and they are texting each other, they have inside jokes, they're you know, you know, getting meals without you, all that stuff. Would you be okay with it? That's the question here.
It's going to depend on how much time they're spending with each other and if there are times when I'm busy or just out doing something else. If it's time that we can be spending with each other or they should be talking to me but talking to them instead, yeah, then I'll have a problem.
You're right, you're totally right. Trust is important and we should trust our mates with other people. But the thing is I don't trust other people. I don't trust what they think about him, what they do to him. I don't trust them. I love them, I know I trust my mate. But the thing is I don't trust their friends. I don't trust their girlfriends, their boyfriends. I only trust him. You're totally right though, you have a great point, you know?
To be honest with you I quit with boundaries because it never works for me and I'll quit where every little thing that happened because Lily they cross the boundary or a lily they just don't go for the boundaries I can come on like there's no for a relationship
I appreciate that but what happens if I wasn't playing them a joke no more and show them more appreciate your input and your thoughts and your opinions to my general question or answer for your answers
Would you be okay with your best friend and your partner being close yes close as I can see you like I'll let hanging out one oh one and inside jokes and what not I need to be part of the inside you know I need to be part of the joke you joke and I don't see no reason why y'all need to be hanging out a solo one oh one I just thought I I wouldn't get that I just thought I would get that it's enough for me
Celine having trust your people talk about that nope we need that if you don't trust you know how ling nothing but like if you were close my boyfriend with my work in Rosemary best friend like body types of like how I am with her but like I wanna hold another level at this point that's your best friend and your girlfriend like at this point I want my hair do you know like strange as fuck
Okay, prime example as to why it won't work out is your best friend is your best friend. So you tell your best friend everything. Your girlfriend is your girlfriend. You don't tell your girlfriend everything. Oh yeah you should. Well you don't okay. So when that gets into a mix, your best friend gets mad. Guess who she's going to run to? Vice versa. Girlfriend gets mad. Guess who's gonna find out? Not a good idea. Keep those two separate. Have separate lives. Great idea.
Hell no and I'm gonna gonna do it trust or anything like that it's just like a separation like I don't want like you know you just got different people for different things you know like I don't know that's just too much mixing mingling for me like you won't ever be able to talk shit I feel like
Oh I get it I'm not gonna lie but I'm the typical person that I really jealousy I'm a jealous person so if I see my partner they just go out with their friends I mean I'm I don't is not too good you know I give they like the time maybe they needle out but like for you not one and one only and go out and have a joke I probably will be angry it's not meat man you gonna lose me if you do it
No, unless they knew each other before me and my partner got together, if they met after we got together, I would not feel comfortable at all. I feel like in my opinion that's a red flag. I would of course want my partner and my best friend to be close, be like, I guess kind of friends, but nothing to the point where they're best friends.