So earlier today somebody messaged me explaining that they're kind of in a tough situation and they wanted our opinion. So what to do if and when someone's taking advantage of you? Because right off the bat, I can think of is respect. This person clearly does not respect this individual and it's really important for this individual to set boundaries and you know, remind them and also stand up and say, hey, you know, I don't appreciate this and you know, I would hope you would do that like kind of just find a happy medium But I really want to hear your guys's opinions and advice about this because I feel like more and more people are coming forward about People walking all over them taking advantage of their presence You know really not appreciating who they are and taking them for granted in that moment of time So yeah, we'd love to hear what you guys have to say and let's hope we help this person out as soon as possible
Treat people how they treat you. Deal with them accordingly. And if you don't want to give them tiny examples of how they treat you by reflecting their actions, then cut them off several times in dog communication. It's not worth the headache, it's not worth the stress, it's not worth the drama.
Boundaries absolutely are key here, but the typical advice about boundaries is ineffectual because it emphasizes discussing another person's behaviors with that person when in reality boundaries are about behaviors, not discussions. Your behaviors, not someone else's. A boundary is set by deciding to be unavailable to experience a given scenario and it is enforced by refusing to participate in such a scenario, not by talking about it. Period.
A boundary is you leaving a date early and or not going on another date with that person. A boundary is you hanging up the phone or not answering the phone. A boundary is you not answering a question. A boundary is you not allowing the uninvited guest to enter your home. A boundary is not going to the event you don't want to go to or leaving the event early if you no longer wish to be there. A boundary is ending a friendship. A boundary is you saying no.
Enforcing a boundary is not talking to someone about what you do not want to happen. You can talk about it, but understand that merely informing someone that you dislike their behavior is not enforcing a boundary. Why? Because you are still demonstrating through your own behavior that you are available to experience the other person's behavior, regardless of your words, and that's all that matters. The only way to seize experiencing an undesired scenario is to refuse to participate in it.
Although I'm a guy myself I hope I hope whatever the fuck this is she's my language anyways Personally what I think is the minute she starts to notice she's being taken advantage of she should leave Shin-chan and make things work because all jokes aside you don't want her no more you just want her for what she has
You need to leave. If that person does not respect you and they are literally taking advantage of you then you need to leave because at the end of the day it's about your mental health and what's best for you and they're only going to be taking away from you. They're not giving you anything back because they're just trying to use you for something and and that's just gonna be only negative feelings for you and you're gonna be in a bad mental state because of that.
If you're being taken advantage of, at least do something about it and make sure the other person knows not to mess with you and be assertive about it. Don't be rude, don't be a jerk, just be kindhearted about it but be assertive. how you handle that situation.