So there's a phrase out there where it goes something like walking on eggshells and in case you haven't heard it, it basically means that it's you being very careful to not offend or upset someone you're with. And I wanted to ask you if you've ever been in a position like that, whether it's with a friend, a family member, a lover, yet the idea, I actually have been and it's so hard and it obviously brings a lot of tension because you're like okay I want to do this but how would they react like you know and you have to be like careful like I said so it's it's not ever gonna end well you know what I mean um and I've moved on from those days but yeah thinking back to it now I'm like I can't believe I let that happen you know but I'm very curious to hear here you guys' take on this.
Except for I was not in a relationship with her I was a friend of hers and he said anything that she didn't like she would go off on you like I mean blood boiling off of you and I found it really annoying so that's why we stop being friends
Oh my god, I can totally fucking resonate. Like, no joke. Right now, um, we have two friends, they're going through a breakup, they're both my friends even though I knew the girl first, and her ex now has become like an integral part of the boys, I guess you would want to call it that. And we have to fucking walk around the act shells with him whenever we're talking about about like making plans with her, and it's honestly getting on my nerves.
Oh, I hate it when friends go through a breakup, especially when you know both parties. Oh gosh, how recent was this breakup? Because it just sounds like it is very fresh, like a month, you know what I mean? But regardless, that is definitely frustrating. Been there, done that.
I say live your life unapologetically. There's going to be times that you want to try and handle things with some oven mitts around certain people because they get triggered easily and if you care about their feelings you will try and circumnavigate certain topics or whatever For the most part just say what you got to say and do what you got to do as long as you don't have any malicious intent
So anytime that I've had relationships and someone has told me with advise us as well that whoever you're interested in it might be a trauma response and it's a lesson that I got a learn any time are you speak to someone else and do your friends with somebody tiger enemies or you're not enemy of some people it's always a lesson so with this specific guy right he did not really like me like that
No we're not him liking me I don't think I like 10 is because I'd like to Tama is shit like that like maybe with coworkers maybe with friends family all that's not a shit right so I was really confuse like I don't know if I like them or not or maybe it was just lost and then finding out that I have a disorder called borderline personality disorder and see PTSD I got those autos So when I find out bitch when I tell you how quickly I lost feelings for this dude
I lost feelings for this dude so damn quick man like he said a question and then he said he getting obsessive like what the fuck why what did he ghost me why are we not talking to some of the words like obvious is because I don't actually like you is because I did not know about myself that much and I would just go throwing myself into a relationship that I don't know any information about myself and look at me now I have obsessive people sucking me
So yeah, I have I feel like everybody can kind of relate to this but with their mom my mom I still to this day as an adult feel like I cannot be myself around her Because she always would get mad at me for something she always gets upset about something and she's it's very easy to anger her And so I always try my best to be respectful to be patient around her like it's yeah, it's difficult and it's draining
I have definitely been in that situation and I decided that I am no longer trying to be dealing with it I'm just going to start working on a shells for people if they I don't like it then. Oh well.
Yeah I think being in relationships was like friends that I had to be careful around because they were kind of sensitive which I got but I would apologize straight up when I offended them but it was kind of crazy to me when they would start rumors because I offended them even though I apologized automatically but they started rumors and they wouldn't wanna fight with me even though I apologize like I said
I'm just not friends with people like that anymore because I want to be comfortable with my friends and I shouldn't have to be careful or change myself if we're friends you know and especially if you're gonna like start rumors about me or want to fight me or create a group to fight me you know it's kind of toxic and that's what they wanted to do just because I offended them even though I apologized like a bunch of times
Dude, all the time, isn't that what life is about right now? It's about not offending somebody and actually I just offended somebody just on here and they like ask me, would you quit Christine so much in Tokyo? I'd like to ask someone, it's always offensive. I try so hard not to offend people every day. It's like a hard working job for me literally every day.