What do you look for in a friendship? I'm talking about something generally because the biggest thing to me right now is loyalty. Like, I feel like it's so important to have somebody, you know, be there for you and support you when, you know, something happens. You know, they say that you find out who your real friends are when times get tough. And so I feel like for me, loyalty is big, but I definitely want to hear what you guys have to say.
What I look for in a friend is someone who can read the room, read body language, and you know, step outside of themselves and you know, give as well. Because I ain't doing the relationship dynamics anymore where I am the sole giver baby. Mmm, mmm, no. So, yeah, someone who is able to understand the dance and exchange of energy, giving and receiving.
I love everything that you just said and you're exactly right. Friendship, it's a two-way street. You know, both ends have to make it work. It can't be like a sole provider type of thing, so great point you brought up there. And I've done that in the past as well, and I will tell you right now, no more. It's either we both are in it or no one's in it.
Someone who is loyal, someone who doesn't talk about me behind my back, someone who is trustworthy, someone who's reliable, someone who genuinely cares about me, not just in health but also in sickness, someone who isn't jealous of me or envious, you can never be friends with someone who wants the life that you have.
I also look for someone who shares the same values. Someone who's understanding, someone who's not overtly critical or overtly judgmental. Someone who has respect, mutual respect. And someone not loves me just as much as I love them.
If I consider you my friend, I consider you my family. So all those things I just mentioned are of great importance to me. And, you know, no more, no less, I don't think what I said is too much to ask for.
For me it's vital that my friends and I have a mutual amount of emotional safety for one another so if my friend expresses a boundary to me if I'm going to be emotionally safe and a good friend for her I'm gonna honor that boundary and I expect her to do the same for me those are that's my am no no negotiation type of quality in a friendship
I feel like if me and you can like be like we talking but we're not friends yet and I tell you something like I'll tell you something I don't care people know about but people don't know about like I just want to test you And if I feel like if me and you just like I just stop talking to you for like a week And you don't say nothing about it like you don't be telling people it's not my business They know I act then I could trust yours not trust you But like I know that I can have an actual conversation with you because even though you don't know me you can still you know like, you feel like, you know?
I would say for me is support him I feel as if I'm always the friend that supports everyone but when I need you know that Francis a poor me is like OK like where are you some I think support is huge with me along with everything else that all the women had said but support is a big thing for me
I feel like for me, for friendship to last and to be very meaningful, we have to both be like raw and vulnerable. And I think that that's hard for a lot of people because I have a lot of friends that we're just like on the surface level and we don't really get very deep. And I still value that friendship, but I prefer a friendship where I can just like be myself and be raw and vulnerable. And if someone else can't really be like raw and vulnerable, I feel like it doesn't get past that like surface.
Most of the same things I'm looking for in a romantic relationship, but to a platonic extent. So someone who is mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically healthy. Someone who has good boundaries and makes good decisions. Someone who is in a financially good position. Someone who has goals they're working towards. And the vibe is right. So on and so forth.
I now set high standards for friendships because of the repercussions I've had to face from previously studying low standards and I had to learn that I could not make myself available for high quality people to enter my life without first making myself unavailable for the low quality people who were in my life. And it's been a game changer ever since.