I feel like no matter how a relationship starts, whether it's online like a dating app or offline like work or school or through friends, I feel like at some point you introduce them to family. And so I want to ask at what point would you introduce your partner to family? I'm Middle Eastern like I'm Persian to be specific and there's just different ways to go about it traditionally versus how things are today. I mean I'm American born and raised so my parents are pretty much okay with the American lifestyle of introducing a boyfriend. I would say six months in maybe a year like something around that range like not going wood. I'm just trying to figure this out. But yeah, I'm very curious to hear what you guys have to say about this.
So mine went pretty quickly but I introduced my family to my went out husband I think it was a few months after Eva met and it was sorry I've got a cough and it was the first boy that I ever introduced my dad to so he knew it was serious
you have been on a roll with really good questions by the way but I would say about six months to about a year I feel like I just want that time to myself without any outside factors knowing like I just you know want to get to knowing myself but I will say too I don't really let a lot of people meet my family so when it is that time to meet them it's definitely serious so you know
Oh my goodness, thank you so much. That actually made my night. Thank you. But getting back on subject here, yeah, I'm actually 100% alike when it comes to introducing someone at that time period. And not only that, I'm also private with family, so it's not like just anyone meets my parents, you know. So knock on wood. Let's hope it goes well for me, you, and everyone else who has to do that at some point in life.
Of course, no problem. But yeah, no, I feel like it's just nice to kind of like get to know that person without that. It's outside factors. But yeah, no, everything will go well. Just keep keep doing what you're doing for sure. And you know, yeah, it'll work out.
I think that's a tough question. It's a very difficult question because you could be with somebody After marriage and not truly know exactly who they are Not really know their intentions actually know their motives not really know about their past in terms of things that could be detrimental to you You know your reputation their image all that they're mental health you know so with that being said
So I hear some people say, oh, I'll introduce my significant other after three months, or I'll introduce them after a year. You know, I've heard that once or twice. Personally, I know this may sound crazy. I don't think you should introduce them until you're engaged. And I'll tell you why, because people can get engaged six months to a year. And my thing is this, if during the engagement period he is, you know, has a wonderful-
If he has a wandering eye or he's committing infidelity or if he becomes verbally, physically, or emotionally abusive or just anything that's questionable about his character or his behavior, you know, allow yourself to scope it out and during the engagement period, allow your family to scope it out, you know, allow them to vet him as well and ask him important questions as well during the engagement period. And if it's not up to par, up to standards.
If all the questions that your immediate family, your closest friends, loved ones, relatives are asking him if his answers, his or hers answers are not up to par if they're below standard or if they're unsatisfactory, it gives you some time to reconsider and reflect upon the choices that you've both made in the relationship together and whether or not you still want to marry this person. So depending on the circumstances, I do think that you should wait until the end.
I do think you should wait until engagement, but if you find out that that person isn't who you thought they were or that they can't fulfill your needs and you don't share the same values and goals and morals and all that or belief systems then you can decide to end the engagement and then there'll be no loss. You know, you won't have to split assets or anything like that.
I have a very particular opinion with his ID I don't care how long I've been dating someone I don't want to meet your family and I don't want you to be mine I don't think it's a it's a necessary step to take because you're you really need your approval like I need to prove you need to approve me that's it we don't need anyone else's approval I have been very bad experiences with excess families so I'm not into doing it that again so no we can just do a bar
I really like that last message where you said you know why should you be nervous to show your partner to your family? You should love them, you should like them, you should be happy with them. You make a good point there.