So I was talking to someone the other day about friendships and I feel like the older we're getting The harder it can be but is it easy or difficult for you to make friends because despite my age of being 27? I am a social butterfly. I'm an extrovert. I love being around people anyways, and no matter where I go I like to make a friend Even though I have more boundaries these days. It doesn't really stop me from coming across a new face. But I would love to hear your take on this.
I think the older I get the more I'm like it depends on how people define friends. I would say it's easy for me to make acquaintances like new social situations, new groups of people like clicking you know good first impressions you know that kind of stuff but in terms of like real friends I've been a lot of places through the country and the Midwest is very hard to make like lasting friends because people kind of already have their clicks from when they were young So it's easier to make friends outside of east west than it is middle.
This is so true as well, like everybody has their circle. And once the circle's formed, it's so hard to break into it without feeling like you're always the odd one out. I understand that.
It's hard for me because I guess a lot of it probably has to do with me being neurodivergent, but I wish that we could just be like we were in grade school where you could just like look at a person and be like hey you look cool like let's be besties let's go out to like eat or something and you can't really do that now because people are just gonna look at you like you're crazy And so it's kind of awkward because I don't know how to take it
I don't know how to take it from small talk to actually hanging out and building a connection and I feel shy doing that a lot of the time because I don't want to misjudge our relationship. Like I could really be vibing with this person but they get really uncomfortable when I ask if they want to like hang out. So the thought of like rejection scares me. I don't know. There's just so many factors.
Um, my answer is in the middle because the older I get the less worried that I am about like embarrassing myself or putting myself out there. So I'll definitely do that. However, I do realize that I have like a level of friendship where there's like a superficial area and I tend to get friends there and not so much deeper. I wish I did. It's just harder to get to that level. I don't know.
One thing I get from my father is that I'm a social butterfly. I can talk to anybody at any kind of event and have a vibe with them. I don't know why or how people come and talk to me and gravitate towards me, but yeah, that's something I have no problem with. Although I am like super nervous and shy. It's weird.
It's actually I feel like really easy for me to make friends I'm very social and I can really make small talk out of anything and I don't know people tend to like open up when I start talking to them so I love making friends I love having friends so So I don't have any issues making friends.
I'd love to talk to a lot of people like I feel like I'm super social and outgoing but I'm very picky with the people that I keep close to me so I feel like I go back-and-forth with it it's not easy for me to make friends but I only keep like a core group close close to me
I don't find it hard to make friends I mean I think it's just for me my personality like is just easy to talk to people and just start conversations ' I feel like everybody wants friends you know but a lot of people don't wanna put those self out there so I'm a a person that's like very so so
With age comes more pickiness. It's very easy for me to socialize. It's very easy for me to make acquaintances. It's very easy for me to get new connections. But when I'm talking about friends, I need more than just that meeting to develop a friendship. So the meet and greet, oh yeah, I'm easy at that. That's easy as heck. Becoming a friend, we'll see.
It is difficult for me to make new friends I am an introvert and I can come I was a bit shy and quiet but when you really get to know me I'm very talkative but I don't feel like people really get me you know it's kind a hard to kind of connect with other people
Honestly, it is kind of easy for me, but because of, I guess, boundaries and I just, I don't know, sometimes I can get nervous, I guess, now that I'm older and the world is a It's a little different. It's a little harder for me now, but I know that I could.