All right, imagine this, you're helping someone get together with their crush. What would you say or deal? So in my case, I will say I'm an extrovert, I'm a social butterfly, and I've had a lot of my friends rely on me to start a conversation. And so I've done that in the past where I've started something and once there's a common ground, I'll slowly remove myself so that they continue talking. Um, and I also let my friends know, hey, know you're worth and if things don't work out then on to the next. But yeah, we'd love to hear you guys' take on this.
Some shit and I'm trying to figure out how to get a girl myself not but I'll be like I want to do a basic introduction as I just let them know what they do but I hate this person is my best friend for this many years they work in this field they do this they're excellent at that you guys should know each other and then just walk away
Yeah, that is so the best way and then you leave them to it let them have a conversation between one another Don't talk on behalf of your friend, you know, don't try and create chemistry especially they might not have chemistry so you just leave them to it I like that
I'm gonna tell you right now I will help my guy friends in terms of just getting a date not really getting their crush but I am the person who now does not know how to get there crush I never have it it's iamb a person who needs lots of help it takes a village so I yeah Yeah
You made me laugh but have you ever spoken to your crush and I don't know what I mean by crush personally someone you just think is cute so a fleeting feeling. I've ever spoken to someone you think hmm looking good and when they open their mouth you are just disappointed you're like oh my god absolutely no brain in the head of yours. You're so disappointed as that ever happened to you.
Oh my gosh, Kate, just off what you said in your comment here, I have to agree. I've actually talked to a guy before and it's like lights on but no one's home. So bad! But you do come across a person or two like that in your life and you go, Oh, okay. You can definitely tell their looks really carried them through life.
Oh my gosh, that's the best way to do it, but you have to be subtle. You can't be like, I'm going to a bathroom and then never come back. You have to get them talking on something that they're really excited to talk about, because I've done that before where they have nothing in common. And then I leave and come back, and they're waiting for me to come back. And I'm like, oh, you guys didn't keep talking? It's hard. Lร Pun or ร souffhales. Care my time. This will be so much referred to, However, if you have a target, just direct it to exist. And maybe I could sweet่ approve it first. Is this a receipt of national security innovation and I'm not a record. All right, I'll just enter into within the session between we can see
Yeah but what that means is they have nothing in common. They might have crush on one another which is just a fleeting feeling but they don't belong together. Not even temporarily. That's actually happened to me before. I don't know why people try to set me up. I'm quite bubbly and I'm capable but then they set me up with fools and I just start to stand there until they come back from from the toilet, because I'm not interested. I'm that girl.
If I have something in my hand to do I will definitely do I am always proud for people to get together if they want and if they have if they have a crush or feelings for them so obviously as it doesn't depend on what I am next rotor introvert so yes
I would follow basic dinner party protocol about introducing people to each other, which is more or less what you did, but it's a bit more structured and designed around making the interaction as easy as possible. Oh yeah, pretty much do what you did.
I love that and you're an excellent wingman. I definitely like yeah I'm friendly when it comes to just you know getting somebody for my friends go hey how are you doing what's your name and you know just go from there and my friend will come over and be like oh hey this is so and so and so and so and yeah I'm just being friendly without being obvious.
Oh my goodness, thank you! And you know what, based off your answer, you are a wonderful wingman, wing woman. I don't know what the correct terminology is, but yeah, you're that too.
OK so basically my friends know that I'm kind of a flirty friend so like I flirt with everyone whether I like them or not it's like my way of talking to people so they're always always rely on me to like of them with their crush but they end up falling in love with me so I am telling my friends like no go find someone else because I don't want your crush to like me but yeah I'm an introvert but I really like to talk to people even though I'm an introvert which is
Right so from a perspective of me being the one that people are always linking people up with I don't know why I'm a sociable offlier nobody asks them. Best way to do it is just to introduce people to one another have a little bit of conversation a tiny bit don't speak for them or don't speak to your friend go get a drink then go to the toilet or something and come back and just watch the conversation flow. Don't try and answer on your friend's behalf don't try and make the conversation on your best friend's behalf.
Let them work it out between one another by just talking if they click they click if they don't they don't Personally, I don't know why people like to set me up I hate it because I don't believe when you tell me that you think a guy is good for me because you wish you were dating him Don't pass it on to me. I like to know who I'm dating and analyze them myself and as you guys can see I'm a chat box I'm not shy So yeah, they just be fixing with the wrong people.
and thirdly I've actually been the one that's I don't know should I say been used to get to know my friends so a guy likes my friend and they'll come to me and they'll ask me what's your friend's name how does your friend is she dating anyone I'm like no don't ask me hey Sharon hey Charlene hey Betty he wants to talk to you and I leave them to it like don't use me to be the intermediary because she could tell the guy something totally different to what I'm telling the guy. See you in the conversation.