Part two for the series of things to try if you're not feeling heard I recommend not defaulting to anger I know sometimes when I feel dismissed I can quickly get upset or flustered and for me angers like a pretty special emotion because I feel like it protects like my deepest interferes and my insecurities but it also helps me feel like powerful like in an out way when I feel like I'm really small So instead of expressing that anger I try to expose my insecurities that way I don't end up hurting my partner because I know when I get angry and I'm coming out my partner certain kind of way it'll like initiate their defense mechanisms and then they'll get upset and then we both won't feel hurt or gain anything from our conversation

Yeah, I feel like if you're not being heard then there is some communication issues. You and your partner should be working out how to fix, right? Like you mentioned, if you're angry, yeah, it's very difficult to refrain from it, but you should refrain just from expressing that anger by shouting. You know, you're not going to be heard even though you're being louder, right? So, yeah, I think just try to work on your communication issue.