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All right, there's a lot of mommas on here that have their own style of parenting and mothering and whatnot But I wanted to know what your thoughts are on attachment style parenting So like co-sleeping baby wearing Long-term breastfeeding a lot of people say that this is super beneficial because it creates like a really strong emotional bond between like mom and child Or even dad and child whoever's doing that. I mean obviously besides the breastfeeding but and then other people say that it causes a lot of like unnecessary stress and pressure on the mom. What are your thoughts? Let me know.
I know for both of my little ones, especially my first, when the first 6-6-9 months she was born, she was born, I was very attached to her and I would literally cry every time like somebody else had her because like I just missed her, you know?
I don't think there's anything wrong with you being like with your son all the time. You guys can be close, be breastfed for a long time. Honestly, I think that's really healthy that creates a secure relationship that he can trust you.
He's literally been by my side every single day since he was born and we are together like all the time most of the time and recently my brother actually offered himself to take him on a little trip
When I coasted up with my first, honestly I loved it. I really wish that I had done it a little bit longer, but at the same time I was worried that I was going to get stressed out and that she wouldn't be able to sleep and then I wouldn't be able to sleep but you know it all worked out in the end.
At the end of the day, it's all about preference. I co-slept with my child. I breastfed for nine months. I thought about breastfeeding for a couple years, but I mean, the stress was too much, and I changed my mind after nine months, and it was what it was.
Yep, I totally get that. I definitely did not breastfeed as long as I wanted to because the stress was just unbelievable on me and I wish I had a lot more resources but at the time I didn't so I'm glad that I ended up changing my mind because it helped.
I think that it is ideal for the first year of life and that a toned down version of it is ideal for the second year of life. but parents seem to start pushing their kids away after that and tasks from parents get triggered by that.
The extended attachment parenting community is basically a poster board for the typical emotional incest cycle where the husband is not meeting the wife's emotional needs and depriving her of intimacy and she inappropriately gets these needs met through her children.
I would say that there's nothing inherently bad about extended attachment parenting as long as it's within the context of a functional marriage and frankly you can't ask these people for their their opinion about whether their own marriage is functional or not.
Overall, I would just say to be cautious about creating an environment in which the children think the world revolves around them for too long because they eventually turn into adults who don't understand that the world does not revolve around them. and we all know what interacting with them is like.
I totally agree. I think that attachment-style parenting only works if the parents allow the child to explore independence when they're starting to show signs.
I think this style parenting allows for the child to build like a trust in the parent and that they are okay doing other things that maybe they're out of their that would be out of their comfort zone originally. But yeah, I totally agree. After a certain amount of time, I think the parents
Exactly. An infant and a toddler getting their needs met is the foundation for them having a core belief that the world is safe and not unsafe and that their needs will be met. It's an expectation if their parents met their needs.
So my daughter is two and we still breast-feed and I see you like people who say that you shouldn't be holding your child for too long as you're spoiling them and Bubba blah blah I think it's just fucking ridiculous like these kids
They come out as babies and like they need that not sure they knew that Caroline because they've been in you for nine months and you're just gonna you know just throw them out to the wolves basically I think it's just so ridiculous
But essentially like I agree to all of those like I think it's important to have a connection and that attachment with your baby and no matter how like how old they are I think it's important to build a strong relationship
I feel like the child gonna have develop development toe issues just like me and I wouldn't love my mommy 24 seven and I'm old I'm very old and I still act like a child
I did the baby wearing for about six months but I don't remember doing it that often it was just like when I wanted to go for a walk oh my breast-fed for 13 and Cole said for 14 I mean it's still kind of costly.
So it's like a four day trip today is my first day without my son physically being with me and I'm like I'm kind of going through it like not in a negative way but I'm like wow like I'm so dependent on my baby