One thing that I realized when I met my current partner was the feeling of feeling safe in your relationship. Now, safety or that sort of level of comfort that you're safe enough has never really been a parameter that I thought of previously to be something that should be considered in a relationship. but however since I met him it has been like one of the biggest pillars of what I think is important and I do love that safety that I fill with him and for safety I don't just mean like being protected but I mean safe to express your opinions and feelings and safe to be yourself and just safe to feel loved in a way that's also healing and yeah what are you guys's thoughts of this? Have you ever considered safety to be a parameter in your relationship or previous relationships.

First of all, that makes me so happy for you that he provides such a sense and literal feel of safety for you. I agree with all of this for sure.

I feel like nothing beats feeling safe when you're in a relationship because if you don't feel safe, you can't open up. And also if you don't feel safe, you won't necessarily feel secure.

Wow, well thank you for sharing that topic and your story. I do think it needs to be a necessity. um, obviously you need to be sure about yourself individually, but...

It is the most important thing. Oh my goodness, especially coming from a relationship where I never felt safe and now I always feel safe. Wow, it makes the biggest difference.

I think if you don't feel safe with your partner then you're just losing time with him.

Of course safety is important in any relationship whether it's a friendship or a romantic relationship you need to feel safe and like the person you're with won't you know hurt or degrade you over anything

Yes and the one way I can tell if I'm comfortable and I trust a man even girls any friends anyone is if when they are driving and I'm in the passenger seat if I feel safe or not so I just use that as a gauge so if I go out with a guy and I'm not feeling safe in the passenger seat I literally dumped them

Man, just fuck the bitch then leave.

It comes down to a few different things. First of all, absolutely things important that someone feels safe in a relationship. Men and women, because even though there may be a physical difference, you know, there's plenty of emotional abuse both ways out there. So feeling safe from all of that is absolutely vital. But then it also becomes a thing of shouldn't that be the norm? Like you should never not feel safe. And I think you should be expecting to feel safe. That should be an absolute given.