and what i'm getting at is a ceremony is such a ritual it's a fucking ritual so if you are uncomfortable with having a ritual to present your commitment to me then um you ain't serious brusky and i ain't serious so yeah a very long-term relationship we're gonna have to have some some kind of ceremony. period.

I have to say that in America, marriage is not a good thing. Not a good thing like in America, because everybody is divorcing and it's become a fear of wanting to marry somebody because you never know when you're going to get divorced. I think it's just the fear of being divorced. That's how makeup just portrayed.

Yeah, and I can answer that without giving away too much of her personal detail, but basically it's what you said, like she wants a deeper commitment because she wants to be around him forever. And in her eyes, it's like, okay, well, if you want me around forever, marry me because I'm not gonna wait around until you really show up type of thing. But I mean, to each their own, I do understand where she's coming from but you can't just force that to happen, you know?

Or like, and then like imagine after they pass away, them putting, them, the family putting you in a bitchy way as the special friend, you know? That's like so uncomfortable. Knowing that you and that person shared like years or decades together and they can't put you in the bitchy way as the wife or whatever, you know what I'm saying? That would hurt.

Marriage doesn't always mean that you have you have stopped loving the person just because you don't want to marry. It's just like it's an extra or like a two-step verification, verification. But just because somebody does not want to marry doesn't mean it does not mean they don't love you. I think it's something they themselves don't want to add up at the moment.