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Hey fam, hey what's really good? In today's sound ****, I want to talk about why are we so hard on ourselves when it comes to our inner and outer beauty. Why do we not give ourselves enough self love?
Sometimes we question ourselves, comparing ourselves to others, comparing ourselves to what our family looks like or what we think we should look like instead of just giving ourselves love.
Because due to the fact that our society is living off of social media, you know the highlight beauty if you are a femme in the LGBTQ community you have to look like this certainly because social media says if you're a stud in the LGBT community you gotta look like that because social media states it.
Given the fact that this is all social media and all makeup, we still tend to want to look like other individuals. We may not even show it. We may not even say, oh no, we're confident. And I'm confident in how I look, but then there are certain things that you want from a person, better teeth, better, smaller st-
You know the highlight beauty is just like social media marketing. They're marketing a particular type of beauty that needs to be you know Socialized and prioritized to other people, but they don't look like that But they want to look like that and the fact that we don't give you give ourself love is hard
Now the reason why it's so hard to give our love, like our self love, is because we tend to give out more. If we didn't experience certain love, we don't want to give it to ourselves, we want to give the love we didn't get to somebody else.
Hey fam, hey what's good sis? Voice is messed up but I do want to reply back and let you know I appreciate the responses and yes it is hard to give love to yourself when we give it to everyone else.
Loving ourselves, I feel like it's just a simple matter of just teaching our children from birth that they are worth love, that they are worth being embraced, that we are worth being picked and choose by ourselves.
In African cultures, putting a divine self image in place is instilled in the babies so as you're coming up as a child you are taught to love and respect your children.
It's also a nod to our history and to our lost culture and when I say our I mean displaced beings mostly from Africa whose development was interrupted.
So from that perspective we're in a foreign culture that does not cater to the being, to your spirit. There's nothing spiritual in this culture, but we're spiritual people and so your spirit, your self, your inner self needs cultivation.
Because we do not cultivate a divine self-image as standard in our culture, we then grow up and look for external things to fill in those blanks of the things that we actually need.
So because in this culture it's not normal to love yourself it doesn't mean that you know people Therefore can go through life without understanding that you should love yourself And most of us come to it after the brains been fully developed 30 years ago
28 to 30 years later where we kind of have a second wind and then we can implement that confidence within ourselves but it should be standard in our culture for that to be instilled and we're seeing sort of a comeback with it now
where parents are doing affirmations with their little ones now in the mornings, you know, so that they're starting, and that's helping them to develop a better divine self-image, and that's what we need more of, quite frankly.
So back to your point, sorry, we're not on a tangent, we don't, we're hard on ourselves because we haven't cultivated the self-image that's needed in order to be able to internalize our thoughts and feelings properly.
This is a really tough question and all I can say on my part is that I'm doing everything in my power to love myself more and more and bring joy to myself. And yeah.
Definitely can't agree that I am very hard on myself and a lot of it is just the anxiety and overthinking. So, sound baths, therapy, it's all a process with me.
I truly believe that we are hard on ourselves because everyone else is making it seem as if if you're not this then you're nothing or they make it seem as if when you're not this then you're nothing.
Hey fam, hey, I'm sorry for the cracking voice my voice. I'm losing my voice, but um, yes Executive we are so hard on ourselves and it is ridiculous But we have to learn how to be better
It really doesn't matter if you're 15, 5, 96, 12, you always have time to start all over again. Teach yourself new things and then once you learn them and embrace them, you can teach others. So I think that empathy for ourselves.
They make you seem as if that what you're trying to accomplish in your inner and outer beauty isn't enough. People are quick to give their own opinions in their toxic ways.
Hey fam, hey, I do appreciate your responses and I do understand, you know, other people making it seem like this, that, and the third, but you know what? Learning what we need.
Learning what is imperative to our needs is more important than accepting compliments or affirmations or insults from others. It will allow us to drive to move forward.
At the end of the day, I'm learning this every second of the day. Sometimes it gets harder than others, but I do realize that the blessing is encouragement to yourself first and accepting yourself first before you accept compliment.
There is no need for an Oscar or a Grammy or a compliment if you know yourself and you know your worth and you know what you stand for and you stand on that ground and you hold it 10 toes down. I appreciate it so much for what you've done.
On a psychological level there's this constant battle that everybody has between their negative thoughts and positive thoughts and really it's about which side are you going to give more attention to on a daily basis.
The best thing for us to do is to go towards the light and create a positive space for ourselves and keep that as the shield around us no matter what others say whether it's negative or positive.
Hey, what's up? Good morning. Look, I'mma say this, and I'm the only stud that's answered this already, because we want to look good. Me, myself, I'm not dateable right now because to me, I don't look good enough for me.
Hey fam, hey. You know what? It's a good thing to have standards. It's a good thing to know what you want and know how you want it to be in your life. You are dateable. You are...