Alright, picture this, you're in a relationship. Is it okay for you or your significant other to make new friends of the opposite gender? Do you think it's cool or is it straight up disrespectful? In my case, you know, with my partner, if anyone came into our lives beforehand, totally fine, they're welcome to stay. But if it's someone that's trying to join in now, you know, I'm gonna have some questions and I feel like it just depends on the context. But yeah, I would love to hear your two cents about this topic.
No because I'm gonna tell you why if I were to go out and let's say I'm working and I make a new friend at work like an actual friend and we hang outside hang out I'll try to work and everything if I told my significant other about this person and they're going to tell me oh I know what what they're thinking they're a guy they only have one intention so if that's the case fine I totally respect that boundary but then it's going to be the same the other way around you know I don't want you making friends because I know how girls are and if they know you're in a relationship they're not gonna make friends with you I know that
I think work acquaintances are obviously acceptable I don't have any issues with that but if it's anywhere beyond that where you're texting back-and-forth about things not related to work and or calling or hanging outside outside of work then yeah that's definitely a red flag and I don't think anyone who respects another persons relationship would have any like good intention with that friendship I just it just wouldn't make sense
awesome time. I get what you mean but like especially if it's someone new's about, someone know it makes sense but this is one thing trust comes with play
I really think it just depends on the relationship how much stress you have any relationship if there's any sketchy stuff that's happened in the past that is really happened in the past and your spouse has proven to that they are trustworthy I don't see what the problem is with it
I think if they have friends of the opposite gender before they met me then that's fine. but to like go out of your way to now make new friends once we're together then I think that's a problem.
I think it depends depends on the scenario light saver and since my boyfriend made a friend at work he was a girl and like obviously not best days of her just friends yeah I don't think I'd mind
Good question. So I don't necessarily want to say that it is completely disrespectful or disrespectful. I think that you can kind of learn... Oh, excuse me. You can learn if someone is being... If someone's coming off inappropriately and considerate, you know, I think a lot of times when people say that someone is taken, they will come in and try just to be friends and be cool and be friendly. finally and it's like well then where were you before?
Like now that you see that they are taken and maybe now you that you're turned on by me and my girlfriend together being lesbian now you want a partake in our You know friendship aspect just being our circle and I am not with that at all Even if my girlfriend made a new friend that was a girl I wouldn't have a problem But my intuition is always right and if I don't like a girl there's always a reason why an exact same thing with a guy
Now, me and my girlfriend have noticed time after time after time after time after time that as far as the other sex goes guys, even though we're gay, you know, we're not interested in men, even if we do befriend them and they straight up know, hey, like, we're literally not interested in you. I don't want what you have. They do not care. They will still sexualize. So we just refrain from being really friends with new guys.
I am OK with it as long as people boundaries and respect and it doesn't matter you know who they become friends with in terms of gender identity if somebody is going to cheat on you with somebody else and neglect the relationship then you should not be with that person at all from the get-go you know get rid of them kick them to the curb but someone who actually really cares and respects you isn't gonna do that with someone they make friends with
And part of being in a relationship is trusting your partner like if you're getting really jealous of every single person they become friends with that's a problem and that should be explored and discussed and Dealt with
such a sticky one because i don't think you should ever want to like control or limit your partner um but oh it's such a hard one i think it depends on the capacity of the relationship so like if your friend like is almost like a brother and says like a younger brother i don't i'm even trying to justify it but it's like i think just use your own discernment honestly like Yeah, I think it's just on a cake.