Alright, picture this, you're in a relationship. Is it okay for you or your significant other to make new friends of the opposite gender? Do you think it's cool or is it straight up disrespectful? In my case, you know, with my partner, if anyone came into our lives beforehand, totally fine, they're welcome to stay. But if it's someone that's trying to join in now, you know, I'm gonna have some questions and I feel like it just depends on the context. But yeah, I would love to hear your two cents about this topic.
Um, absolutely not. I feel like it's disrespectful because you have no idea how that bond is going to develop and I just wouldn't like the idea of my significant other bonding with someone of the opposite gender. Um, I feel like I would understand if it's for work or business, but other than that, so know from me.
Oh, wait, wait, I should have explained that better. So the female friends that they already had before our relationship started, it's, that's completely fine. Like I don't have a problem with that. I just have a problem when they go and meet someone of the opposite gender one-on-one. Like it isn't a person who's new to the friend group. Like it's someone they met by themselves and they're trying to, you know, start a friendship or a bond with them. That's when I have a problem with it.
To me it just depends on the situation but I'm totally cool with my partner having friends of the opposite sex because I am super secure in my relationship and I know my partner and I also have a few friends that are guy friends that are my closest friends and he's perfectly comfortable with that as well but I know like you can trust your partner as much as you want but the intentions of somebody else can always be a problem
So if I start to notice like a like the say the female moving weird or acting funny then I'd bring it to my partners attention like hey you know I feel like her intentions might not be to just be your friend so we either need to have this discussion with her or we need to just remove her from our lives because typically our friend groups overlap already anyways
Listen I said one thing for ever man for the new transit become friends with you just know he's he's attracted to normal be friends with you just because they want to be friends doesn't work like that so no thinking about you being in a relationship and I don't want to be friends with you yeah I don't what I don't know to tell you there it's kind of like it's kind of a sticky one still
Is that the case for all men? For real? Like, is it really impossible for a man and a woman to be 100% platonic friends? I like to hold on to this hope. Most of the guys I've been friends with in my life have had ulterior underlying feelings and motives, which is really disappointing, but I feel like we can do it! Like, why can't we all just be friends?
I mean it might be the way for women but like to keep it 100% honest if a man is friends with you he's attracted to you it it it it it it start simple like man it sucks to say because like even I've done it but like most men only make friends with attractive females Oh yeah I know there is there's a there's a lease attract more than not gonna call people out because I was good no way there's a
I personally think it is okay, however people will disagree. They shouldn't act to BBC and confront us, that's weird. But yeah, I think it's okay depending on the circumstance and the situation and also your relationship in terms of understanding the person you're with bit of them explaining and communicating with you, they have obviously friendship.
I am coming from a gay man's perspective I think it's fine to be honest I'm not jealous and I don't and I will trust my partner you know and if I didn't such as my partner I probably wouldn't be with him because that's a terrible that's a terrible space to be in when you don't know what your partner is capable of or trust me do the right thing and be cordial and you know platonic
I'm not like Chi Chi friends like you'll be texting a bitch you know I'm saying like you and I'll be like oh I'm going to get beers with my homey no no we're not doing that and vice versa you know what I mean it's just a respect thing like I'm not gonna have a friend who is a guy who hit me up and we're just friends I'm just texting her because that's my Besty and we're gonna be like now and vice versa like my man is not about to go
I wouldn't like him unless I go out with him and that girl too but yeah and also I come from a Hispanic family oh where is he a bit toxic so and a bit jealous so like that could be a problem maybe not but yeah I just wanna let him help