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Okay, so I have my last question Do you guys ever confide in your family or friends when you and your partner argue? so personal experience I'm saying no, I don't Me and my partner we've never argued. We definitely have disagreements, but we communicate very effectively I've learned though in my past that when you confide in your family or your friends about you know something that your partner has done wrong, they definitely for one will judge, but also it's harder for them to forgive your partner whereas you know you forgiving them. So I don't know for me I don't. I feel like, you know, when you have effective communication, it definitely is better. But if you can get an unbiased person, like a therapist, to talk to about whatever issue is going on, I think that's the better option. Once again, that's just my opinion, but chime in, let me know.
This is a great question I think me and my partner agree that we don't bring outside people into our relationship as far as like being a competent we try to solve our problems within ourselves as much as possible
I also recommend a couple therapist because not necessarily like when your relationship is too far gone it's more so like preventative measures and just to also have like a mediator that is
A mediator who is just completely unbiased and also just serves as someone to like remind us how much we love each other and like how we're in it together when we don't
When ever we don't like see Eye 2 Eye and that's OK like it's OK to have challenges and relationships so yes so first we come by then each other and then secondly we get a therapist
Literally yes to all of that yes. I think a lot of people they do see therapy as like oh my gosh it's the last resort but it can absolutely be used as a second or or secondhand, a preventative measure for sure.
This is a super interesting question and I think for me I I confide first and foremost in my partner and we don't argue either and our communication is super effective.
And like whatever disagreements or issue that may come up, we always talk through it in a common and collected way, which is very good and usually helps solve the problems very quickly.
But at the same time, I think it's very important to also be able to share your feelings with your friends and family. And I guess it depends on what it is that's happened and whether or not the friends of family will get over it or not.
But I think that having that space to share it can also help you see things in a different light sometimes. And it can be negative but it could also be very positive sometimes. So I think that's good. But yeah, it's just a long reply.
I just cut it really because it's easier to just you know stop it on your own terms but when you're with someone and you know let's say they do something that only you can forgive them for maybe like cheating and you tell your family and friends about it.
they most likely will not forget that they cheated on you and how that made you feel and all that stuff so it definitely does depend on what you're telling them specifically, you know, like obviously, yeah, there are some things.
Yeah, no, I think there's definitely things that would be harder for our friends and family to get over. and in those cases I definitely think therapy has a great role to play and and could be a lot more helpful.
A friend actually had that issue once where she told all her friends what her boyfriend had done and they were all like, oh we're not gonna forgive him, we're never gonna want to see him or talk to him again And it just completely broke her so I see how it can definitely tear someone down
I'll be talking shit to myself to be honest because I don't got no friends other than that I'll be talking to my boy best friend and he just don't be listening for real but he's there
I'm honestly really glad you brought up talking to yourself. I do that too all the time And it helps a lot. I feel like sometimes I'm like, okay, let me see the rationale behind everything rather than just being, you know,
Right, no, because I had a habit of opening up and just like, when I start talking about something, I just keep on going and trauma dumping. And I had to stop doing that because they would give me opinions and put shit in my brain.
No never because it might give you an advice and a minor follow up on it or do you know what am I tell me the wrong thing so I just put him on intuition and talk to my partner instead think that's much healthier
Yes, heavy on following your own intuition for sure. But also I think, you know, when people do give advice they expect you to always take it and and it's not something that you always have to take. like you know I feel like
I feel like if people also understood that aspect of like your advice is just advice. It's not something that you have to follow. You know sometimes people get really butt hurt over that and it's like mmm it's not something has to be.