I kinda don't agree with this. I kinda think, again, I mean this is my personal view of course, but what I feel is, it should start slow.

Relationships are such complicated affairs, you should take baby steps. So even if it's a good catch, and you're not testing the water. You're not testing the waters. I don't know what it's called. Testing the water.

So even if it's a good catch, I would recommend you start off with a cup of coffee, you know. Start off with coffee and you talk for just some time, just for till the...

Just you know till the coffee lasts. You ask just a few questions, not anything personal. Just get to know each other and try to leave a good first impression about you.

Nothing cheesy, everything should be very genuine and very normal. So he should have developed something about you, some kind of feelings about you by the time the first date.

By the time the first coffee day ends, yeah that should be the priority just to get to know each other, that's it. And then if it escalates, then definitely an elaborate dinner.

then if it escalates then an elaborate dinner makes a lot of sense. But before that dinner you should have already had a lot of back and forth over the phone, messages etc.

I mean that's that's just me you know I understand everyone is different the situations are different the preferences are different so that's just my preference

because and primarily that's my preference primarily because that makes me feel better and I believe that that may that you know this way I can make my partner feel better to feel comfortable

I didn't even think about this before I made my response, but that is so true too. That coffee is way easier to leave early from than dinner. I agree 100%.

Yeah, that's what I was talking about I didn't mention that point but Yeah, coffee is Gonna be a very short interaction Nothing awkward and we can get

That makes so much sense now. Unfortunately for me, 90% of the time I go for dinner dates. So yeah, time for change.

Haha, this is so true once that Sun goes down beware Yes, best to get it first thing in the morning coffee

I mean, I don't know how applicable this is here, but scientifically it's been proven that if the conversation is over a hot cup of coffee or tea, something hot, like a hot beverage and the person is holding it,

And the person is holding and drinking the hot beverage while talking to you He would feel he would have warm like, you know, just like the beverage should have warm feelings about you You'd have good feelings. It would be comfortable so coffee

So even scientifically, scientifically coffee is a better alternative to dinner. I know the dinner could be warm as well but dinner is very lengthy. You don't want that conversation to last for that long.

Especially if you realize that's not gonna work out. And coffee is cheap, it's not that expensive, like dinner. So you'll save your money too. Save your money campaign.

yes on point on the bill as well it would be less awkward to either offer to pay for it or have someone cover for it because it's not that much yeah

If you choose dinner, if you're capable of having a long ass dinner with someone, then go for it. But, I'm telling you right now, if you go with coffee, girl, you don't have to do the whole thing, the pa-

Like the whole paying like, oh, you know, like guys should pay or women should pay or like should we do 50-50 with coffee? You're just like, okay, you know, like this is just five bucks. Nothing like it's it's nothing for me You know, and then you can go outdoors and walk at the park.

Right on the time spent on dinners versus just getting coffee. Dinners can get unintentionally longer and then boring so yeah I'll hop on the coffee date from now.

I'm sorry I posted in the wrong way. This post was supposed to be a reply to really London's response so I've already had a reply I've already sent a reply and this was the subsequent reply but

It is definitely cheap as well and somehow I don't know I like coffee as well I prefer coffee to dinner so and you know

But if I'm already like Having dinner if I have the plans to have dinner like the next thing is dinner and I want a date to happen as well Then I can just invite the person over and

I wrap up the dinner and the day together. So I'll just tie the two together in those situations it's very situational, but I would prefer coffee and Another thing is you can have coffee anytime of the day. Yeah

Be it morning afternoon evening any time of the day you can have coffee anytime you can have coffee in the office You can have coffee at home. You're gonna have coffee In a restaurant or a cafe. Yeah, so that's

I don't know. I don't want to like post a lot of replies But yeah, it's coffee Coffee for sure coffee day not dinner

You can talk to the person in a nice way and you know, you don't have your mouth full so of course it helps. And it's gonna be a pleasing warm conversation. Comfortable, comfortable.