So mom guilt sucks and it's something that I struggle with daily like even doing like the smallest things I just feel so guilty for doing them for myself and it's crazy because we have to take care of our self take care of our kids I'm not saying like do something for yourself and not your kid I'm saying that to be able to fully take care of our kids we have to learn to take care of ourselves as well

110% agree. My son is two and a half and I honestly I feel like I have this pep talk with myself for like every six months. I feel like I'll get on track with trying to prioritize honestly just like general like hygiene for myself or sleep for myself or like eating a meal for myself and I'll do that for like a week or two and then I fall off again and I just feel like I give, give, give, give, give so much to my son and my you know husband that I'm like.

When that happens, you just have to remember that you're their mother first and their friend second. There's no other way around it. That's just how it has to be. Solid as concrete. You are their protector, their provider. You give them guidance, you're their nurturer. You feed them, you house them until you know they're legally of age to become an adult and take care of themselves. And even then they're still going to need your guidance and support. So there's no reason for you to feel guilty for wanting time to yourself.

I don't know any parent that has the perfect relationship with their child. And if they do have a very easygoing relationship with little to no difficulty, it's because they're too lenient and they allow their child to have too much freedom and there's a lack of discipline and probably even a lack of respect. But they're very, how do you say, I'm very submissive and are too afraid to discipline their child.

As a mother and even as a father you cannot care more about being a child's friend than being their parent. They need structure.

Although they may not know it right now, those children will thank you in the long haul for teaching them morals, values, structure, discipline, all that and self-control because a lot of children don't have that. A lot of children don't even have parents and they'll thank you in the long run because they hopefully, you know, they won't end up somewhere, you know, 15, 20 years from now with this alcohol addiction, drug addiction, sex addiction, you know, or a severe mental illness, hopefully, you know,

Hopefully they'll be well-rounded and well taken care of and you know they'll be functional good human beings. That, how do you say that, helps society as opposed to bringing it down.