I have way too many thoughts about this to explicate in this format, so I will just say that it is unfortunate that here in the West we only have these two ideas. Love is a biochemical reaction and love is a verb. We don't have this other thing, which is what I would call love, and that's why our relationships are a mess. That's why our marriages are a mess, even discounting the divorce. I mean, most of the marriages that remain together are miserable, And it's because we don't know about love.