Like, when you're in a relationship with your partner for over 8 and a half years or whatever, and everything is good or whatever, you're down, your partner had your back, you feel me? Your partner down, you're up, you have your partner's back. But when you're down again, and your partner's family feels like that you're not good enough for, you know, that partner because you're out and can't do, you feel me? mean like what do you do on top of like your partner is lying to you more often after eight years of being together miss out on our anniversary because of their side of the family your partner tells you that you're about to make them give up because you're asking questions how do you what's your opinion like how do you respond and react