okay you guys got to hear about this situation that went on between this woman and her fiancé so they've been dating for a few years and they got engaged and so they're planning a wedding and he came forward being like oh yeah by the way um i lied to you i'm not debt free i'm actually in a lot of debt and i actually want you to help me pay it off now if you were in her shoes would you break up or tell him no or would you try to help him by paying it off i think for me i wouldn't go as far as breaking up but i would tell him i'm not paying for it like that was clearly something that you should have told me sooner because it obviously affects the wedding budget because that's why it came out that he was in debt uh but i would ask him to get his responsibilities in order and you know encourage him to find ways to pay it off like get another job or you know have a side hustle or two to you know bring in extra income to tackle that debt so it's gone faster if that makes sense but i would love to hear your perspective on this because i'm sure this girl would too

No, I definitely would be pretty upset if that happened just because the whole point is like transparency, you know, and to lie about something like that is crazy. And that's a lot of the reasons for like separation stuff too, so.

So, do you get that people lie about things they're embarrassed about? No. One, he wants her to pay his debt. That means that he is definitely using her. Does she really want him to prove himself? I in my hand would, after having a nice harsh talk with him, I would let him know, we don't get married until you learn how to discharge your debt yourself.

You don't start a long-term relationship with someone who doesn't know how to manage a major part of your relationship, money. So if money is what causes divorce, then you do not go any further starting in a negative. It just makes no sense. So he has a requirement to meet up to. Don't drop your standards, raise the bar.

I mean, I actually agree with you, but then again, it's like the same old, the fact that he lied about being debt free, which in fact he wasn't really debt free, he had a lot of debt, so that is a major red flag. I would definitely be mad, and I would definitely, why'd you lie to be mad? And that is so mean, and no, I would not pay for the debt, I wouldn't say, no, you do it, you know. No, no, no, no. You lied.