All my life, I've been wondering about this same question. Can you love somebody in private, but secret? We need to define the word secret. What does it mean to be secret? I feel like some men see secret as interchangeable for selfishness.

I feel like if it has to be a secret it's not real love and I wouldn't even want to be in a love where I have to keep it a secret like that. Shit when I came out of the closet when I was in high school and I was banned from seeing my girlfriend that didn't stop me. I don't appreciate any kind of forbidden hushed up kind of love that's not the way I love.