Does having labels mean anything to you or are you just a go with the flow type of person? I've learned that having labels like you placing me as your girlfriend and I'm placing you as my boyfriend doesn't necessarily just mean so much. When that happens, I feel like that people lose focus on the relationship itself and are actually focusing more on the title. Like, oh, I'm a boyfriend. Oh, so I have to do boyfriend things. Oh, I'm a girlfriend. So I have to do these boyfriend. I mean, these girlfriend things when you should still be focusing on the person that you are and focusing on the relationship and focusing on the other person instead of actually focusing on the title is self.
Yeah having labels definitely makes me feel more comfortable in the situation or any situation that I'm doing like why can't we be upfront with whatever that we're doing and if nobody likes the way the situation is then we can just send it
I agree and I definitely agree with your feelings. If having labels is what's gonna make you feel comfortable then I feel as if that should be something communicated between you and the other person at the beginning because if it's not going to go where you want it to go then don't stick around
Labels are definitely important in the dating and relationship world, not only because of communication, but also clarity, because oftentimes and not, people are just so confused on where they stand. So having a label really like puts things into perspective.
Right, and I get the fact that labels would give clarity, but I also feel like that once the labels are there, you have that clarity, I also feel as if that's what people start focusing on more, is the labels. So it's just like you gotta find balance in between the two.
I would rather if I want to have style then you know try to get my attention with labels you know I'm saying a lot of people who can buy expensive things in high in labels they can't dress I just know how to buy expensive things
The way you put that is hilarious but true. And right, like just because you can't afford the label doesn't necessarily mean that you can dress. So again, just because you can't afford this label doesn't necessarily mean that you can afford the relationship. meaning doesn't necessarily mean that you will know how to communicate or know how to handle the relationship itself.
Labels are really really really important to me because if I don't have a clear definition of what we are I'm gonna act like I'm single like if you don't tell me explicitly like we are dating we are exclusive I'm gonna act single because I don't really owe it to anyone till I give my time in my exclusivity just because it feels like the right thing to do like I want to be clear on everyone's intentions involved
Right, but if you know that you're dealing with someone, it's not the fact of you wanting to necessarily just, oh, act like that you're single, you know that you're dealing with someone. And so it's more about a respectful thing, like having respect for that person. if having labels is what's going to make you clear about it, then get the label.