How soon do you have someone over that you are dating whether it's for dinner or for kinky reasons or for fun how soon do you make that happen and what do you consider you know what makes you feel good about it

Okay not to be that person but just due to the safety of women nowadays and how men are scary as long as it takes like hello can we just see if he's crazy and wait and hold off for a while

I am I feel fairly safe in defending myself you know and if I'm comfortable enough to go on a date with you and if I wanna go on a second date then I feel like I'm comfortable enough for you to come over