Hey Stereo and my beautiful Stereo family, I have a question for you because I'm watching this video and he has his ways that he is saying helps deescalate a situation, you know getting closer, holding hands, looking each other in the eyes, it usually does make it harder to get in a straight out argument, blow not fight, I know one thing me and Butler like to do if we can't for whatever reason come to an agreement, we'll have to put a pin in it and we find something to laugh at or maybe something funny to watch or just maybe talk about something else all together, right? What is it that you guys do to deescalate arguments so that it's a healthy argument right? Because arguments aren't supposed to happen in relationships, but healthy arguments so they don't get out of control, I would love to hear you guys advice, can you drop it in the comments? Let's go Stereo!

Hello Tamin, how are you? I come here to leave you a lot of love, I wish you a happy beginning of the week and a very good post as always. See you!

Absolutely agree, 100%.

This is a great post Tammy, that's the way to do it, so I agree. You know, if partners can come to themselves to just revisit a situation, then that's what's up. Unfortunately in mine it wasn't the case, or narcissists and what not. But yeah, it's great, a great rule to live by, have a relationship by.

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Okay, so one of the things that I do with my boyfriend when things get a little like, you know, just defensive, I guess. Um, he definitely speaks his mind and I speak my mind. And, but I try hard to have patience and I try not to like, you know, yell or scream, um, because they won't listen if we get to that level.

A shout out to Tammy and Butler for the pin on it. That's a great idea Some people even said they I've talked to couples They said to go to separate rooms and text each other some people write letters The whole thing is to deescalate and I'm thinking high emotional you got to know your partner All right, every dynamic is different. Your partner is a high energy when they're upset Then that's something that you know space might help, you know, I mean where some people like to talk it out So I think it just depends on a dynamic and knowing your partner truly knowing your partner

You know what, after being married for so many years, we don't even let an argument escalate in order for it to be de-escalated. We just stop, and then it just kind of, poof, goes away. If it's something that we need to talk about, we will talk about it eventually, but sometimes, nah, we don't need to at that time.

Hey Tammy, I hope you're having a wonderful day, I hope you feel better and I try not to yell, I try not to argue, I try to listen to my partner's point of view to get a better understanding of why they're mad.

The best thing for us to do to de-escalate any type of heated conversation is for us to table that shit and discuss other things because we're both high-headed but he's a lot more logical than I am. I am straight spitfire volcano so basically we're waiting for me to calm down which takes about three to four days depending on what it is and then we'll go back to the topic. Yeah that's the best way for us to handle it.

I like to bring my partner outside and drop kick her. No, I like to bring my partner outside and, you know, take off our shoes. You know what I mean? Whether, you know, sometimes, you know, in the past we'll put our backs against each other just so we can focus. You know what I mean? Let that negative energy come out and then revisit that when we're feeling better. Sometimes we'll do it separately, you know what I mean? But it works, it works.