Okay, how would you feel if someone came to your event, like a birthday, graduation, wedding, etc., with no gift or card? I feel like with the way I was raised, that was something that was not ever, like, tolerated. And I personally find it really disrespectful because that person put in time, energy, as well as finances to invite you to something that meant a lot to them. And the least you can do is a card, right? Like, you can print it, you can write one, you can, you know, make your own with crafts. Like, it's not that expensive to do. But, you know, you can also offer an IOU, like, hey, you know, later on, I hope to do this or that for you. Like, there's just different ways to express your love for them. But yeah, I, again, feel like it's disrespectful to be, like, empty-handed. But that's just me. Let me know what you think.

as much as it like is kind of sad that nobody brought you anything honestly i don't really care because i know many people can't really like afford to bring you gifts but i mean the most you could do is maybe write a card on like a piece of paper but it'd be kind of embarrassing to bring that to a birthday party so i don't really shame anybody if they can't get me anything it's like totally okay

You know, as long as they show up to me, I'm okay with that.

So it probably really depends on the situation right like most weddings that a lot of people have been to like most birthday parties It wasn't like directly them being invited So like if we think back to like maybe in our younger years or maybe right now like we'll have a birthday party or wedding That would go to but we weren't personally invited Maybe our parents were invited and we just tagged along with so us getting a card really wouldn't make sense I think just appearing there and just being there is generous enough I think how giving them a card really is

oh i'm so on the fence with this because like i hear where you're coming from and i feel like we probably grew up a little bit similar um so i mean most definitely a card if anything right because it only takes and cards are like dirt cheap you can get one to trader joe's for like a dollar uh granted not everybody has a trader joe's but you know or you could just it doesn't matter right it's a thought that counts but sometimes just having someone show up is enough for me personally