So I had a little bit of an epiphany the other day we have been trying for another baby for for for four years and the stress of infant secondary infertility and doing all the things of tracking the temping they're monitoring the doctors for bloodwork all that stuff is exhausting and the other day I just realize that you know what I If it happens it happens and if it doesn't I'm just gonna focus on like fighting happiness and our little family of three not like we don't normally but just like just really fell at is with the idea of like this is our family and if it changes it does and if it doesn't or perfect the way we are and that felt so good and it's been a really long time and struggling with giving away baby clothes and things like that I don't know I just feel really happy with that so just thought I'd share