I would have to remind myself that it's OK if your house looks like it's been lived in by this I mean like it's OK if your house looks like a disaster to you I'm having zero motivation today and I'm auntie struggle with us because I feel like my house Conson used to be like spotless and I'm feeling I'm cost to cleaning I'm currently doing some thing and I just came across this video it just said like it's OK like your house should be lived in and like it's a mom showing her house is just like obviously like it's messy but like that's the meaning of it behind you know behind that saying and I just wish I was right now But I think I'm just having like a mental health day and just kind of relax and take it you know take a day off of everything

It's really not OK that's a bad sign of laziness and like lack of care about how you live they come on this is don't promote this this is fucking retarded

I think as moms we have to give our stuff a break. We don't have to be perfect. The house doesn't have to be spotless all the time. Like, it's okay. And I had to learn that too. Like, I learned that really the end of last year is when I just decided I was going to stop stressing myself out. Over having this perfectly clean house because I do have small kids and it is hard to clean, to keep the house clean all the time because they have toys and everything that they drag all over the house. house but yeah you just have to give yourself a break. I think as moms we can sometimes we just

So listen I love social media I work in social media but I think part of the negative of social media is that this has destroyed everyone's ideas of what like a home should look like all we see on Instagram or in these perfect homes I mean like 90% of the time like these beautiful kitchens and everything is clean we don't see the massive clutter behind and so one yes I think what's the time or house is meant to be lived in it's not supposed to be picture perfect for Instagram all the time

Not just that it's been lived in but the kids live there like it's OK kids do live there I have to remind myself that a lot to and with my first kid I was constantly cleaning up and I and I would end up getting upset when she would make messes but really that's why the toys are there that's why the stuff is there to be played with so to feel like I was getting angry at her for playing with her toys just became absurd to me and so I stopped caring so much about the mess and I just remember it's temporary it won't

Yeah, and it's also good if you have like friends in a support group that don't care about that and that understand Like you say like it's meant to be lived in and shit happens And it's just it takes a lot of time and effort with everything that we're doing to Pick up everything all the time especially when it's gonna get messy again and like For me, it's like if I go to someone's house and they're like that's cleaned up I'm like, you know, why did you take the time to do that? You should just relax for a half hour watch something, you know, I had some fun. You don't need to clean for me. I I genuinely wouldn't have even noticed.

That is such a M A peeve of mine how people have this house that looks this way and they want furniture never sign nobody ever sat on it and the walls are super super super bear there's no pictures of nobody there's no essence of a child or a child is here there's no SS that family lives here this is really just thing

I love this. Thank you so much for saying this. Yes, it is it is okay And I'm trying to remind myself so much that like my house is not supposed to be picked up Like it does it's not supposed to be clean so thank you for that

Why do I keep getting recommended mothers? Must be a sign.

So I'm not a mom but I grew up in a family where your house literally needed to look like a Pinterest catalog I guess not catalog but like a Pinterest board so having a house is lived in has been really difficult for me but also it's been really relieving at the same time because people do live there I have three cats and a dog lake it's not gonna be spotless So it's yeah

Your house yeah Outlook Black or white or something