No I definitely hear that which is absolutely valid and that is that is great whether that's a man or a woman but I'm kind of talking about the guys who just have not done any of that innocence like you know

Allegedly I can record for a little bit longer but yeah I feel like as well women in their 30s who are not with anyone They're always scrutinized whether they have been in a relationship and it don't work out whether they're working on themselves No matter what if you are not married settle down whatever they are scrutinized but I actually see it as if a guy is in the same position why does nobody want you, you know?

My only pick with men is don't be 39 in the club. And then also, if you don't have your life together, don't have a preference of what women should shouldn't be doing.

Oh my gosh please don't send me a 39 in the club grow emoji is that real like what are you doing also the perfect babe you really need to take what what is available right now you know I mean

And if you're gonna be 39 in the club, you better be celebrating something with your friends that was a milestone that contributed to your success or your life endeavors. Other than that, W39 in a club.

J, that sounds so manipulative. Oh my god, but I do like that.

That sounds like grooming to me. That's a little cringe.

Grooming for a man is a lot different than a woman in some ways it is more acceptable because a man will actually appreciate it because he will know what's happening to him and in reality it really only helping the man you're building him up and what's wrong with building people up even if it's your own you know preference or perspective you know that's all just arbitrary we're all in this one shared experience what's what's the little you know addition to your mindset from someone else

I have never been in a real relationship so do not take anything I say serious

It is critical to determine not only that a man wants to be a father, but what being a father looks like to him. Is his plan more or less to turn you into a married single mother because being a father to him entails literally only impregnating you and living in the same house with his kids? Is he expecting you to turn his sons into men because raising kids is for the women and they don't stop being kids until they're 18? Or is his plan to actively take over the raising of his sons because he knows that it is his job to turn his boys into men? is critical.

Leah, I think sometimes just so I can understand your point of view, Like what is the main takeaway? Like, from what I said, you know?

Preston nobody was talking about that you know I don't know what time didn't you going on and who hurt you but I'm gonna need you to read it back in okay okay lovely thank you

And no clue what tangent you've gone on, but thank you so much for sharing, darling. Thank you.