Well, at least you didn't have to deal with any drama, but it's so hard not to go to family gatherings because you just want to be like, feel like you're part of the family, but it's so hard when you do go because there's always something.

That my kids are going to act up or they're going to do some thing like out of character in public and I'm like oh my God I can't I can definitely wait for that and then if it's in front of family I'm just saying they're going to say something

I totally understand. The one thing that's wild is my kids don't have a filter and kids in general don't have filters and don't understand sometimes what they say. So some of the stuff they come up with at least my family is like a good sense of humor about it because they be saying some awful all stuff.

Oh, I'm so sorry, mama. That can be so hard because you just feel like everybody's watching you and judging the way you parent. And it can just be so hard and so stressful. So I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I'm glad you got through it. but hopefully you'll get better.

It was either a fight because people were drinking too much, or shit was getting thrown around, or people just not knowing when to shut their mouth.

I totally understand and I'm so happy and the strength to like stop going to that How did they give you stress?

Oh, I totally understand that. I totally get that. My... On my side, like, my family is just nosy. Like, everybody just very nosy. Um, and usually somebody says something and it's taken out of context or something and it gets crazy real quick. But the other side literally just doesn't have a filter so they'll say whatever the fuck they think even if it's the meanest comment they've ever said in their life they'll still say it.

Yeah, that part would be hard to like watch unfold, but like I think it's also funny when you're at a family gathering and they be heated, they'd be going off and you're just sitting there like, oh, alright. You just sit in there observing it all, just waiting for someone to throw hands. It can, it can just get interesting when you're just observing and like trying to like not piss people off.

It can get pretty funny because it'll be like, it'll be like, I hate black people. And then there's like an awkward silence. And then everyone just like starts agreeing. I'm like, what the fuck? Huh? Like for real? What?

Yeah, for sure. The moment you leave the party and nothing happened, you're like, wait, like you like start questioning like who wasn't there or like, I don't know. It's just weird. If you leave and that nothing happened and you almost like anticipated it to happen and nothing happens. You leave so confused like why didn't anything happen?

I joke that nobody gets into fist fights anymore because they're all too old and too arthritic to actually do something about it, but at the same time sometimes I'll leave and then hear about a fight after and I'm just like damn I always leave when it gets good.

I totally get it and then you get like either the stairs from strangers like what are you doing or like in my case family members that are like That literally just like try to leave or like go outside and talk shit Because you're letting him scream it out because nothing is gonna soothe them Or like letting him run their course because like my son and we think he might be slightly autistic and you cannot stop his fits. He will not stop. There's nothing. He has to run this course.

Oh yeah, that game is played. It gets so serious so quick like they take it very seriously. And spoons. Spoons is another dangerous one because my family instead of playing with spoons they think it's funny to play with forks and shake its violent real quick.