Okay, first of all, clearly somebody hurt you And, and you're clearly talking about one, one person who wouldn't kill a spider for you But secondly, people love to romanticize things about different time periods Like, oh the men were masculine and they went to war Yeah, and they fucking died And, and the ones that didn't would go home and beat their wives And they're racist, sexist, and homophobic Like, pick a lane bro, you can't have it all Like, you know, things are different now You get what you get