Back in college, I had pity sex, for sure. I was way too hot for this guy. I was not attracted to him at all. I was way out of his league. We were both going through rough times. He was being extra nice. I thought, well, let me help him out. Fast forward many years later. I went on a date with a guy and I recognized he was out of my league. I shut it down early, way quick, said, you know what, let's just be friends. No chemistry, let's just be friends. Now I look at those two scenarios and I think, one, am I too hypercritical? Two, realistically, was he too hot? Maybe he was. I didn't want to be the pity sex. I've felt the reverse side of things. I don't want to be the opposite side of it. It's interesting the feelings going on between what you think you're worth and what you think others are worth. Is worth really driven down to just aesthetic and financial success? These things should be thought through introspectively and with a therapist. Because I'm no expert. I fuck up a lot.

I respect the honesty in the, you know, last fucking line. I fuck up a lot, too. Um, you got me asking my question, like, myself. I'm like, what makes someone too hot? What, where, what leagues? What's going on here? Cause right now, I'm in the same situation with this girl. I'm like, do I want to have sex with her? I don't think she's in my league. I know that sounds cocky. But it's just one of those situations.

And of course, any type of abuse, mental, physical, financial, emotional, any type of abuse, that's a huge deal breaker.