Oh my god, I've lost so many friends because of psychological warfare and drama and narcissistic behaviors. I've lost jobs as well because of...

because all the same reasons so yeah I think in a relationship with friendship or any kind of close relationships or even for jobs it's very important that you

It's very important that you and your friend could be absolutely honest to each other. There should be an element of trust, lack of betrayal. Yeah, these things are...

These things are purely basic in nature, quite primal, instinctive and we're losing all these basic qualities in a more narrow... I don't know how to react to these situations. It's quite a shame.

Yep, pretty much. Gaslighting, toxic behaviour, selfishness, lies, untruths, no honesty. And I didn't lose. They lost a friend.

So she did that thing that certain women do in that like once they get a man or whatever, they just forget all that shit that I just mentioned. Mind you, we also shared the apartment one of our other gay best friends. We had a talk with her after she literally reneged on everything.

And basically she was like, fuck you, bye anyway. So she like left, like she didn't even take care of her part at least. She left so that me and the other person had to pick him to slack. Then later, I had a call from our mutual friend talking about, oh, why won't you talk to so-so-

Now I'm looking at my phone crazy because I'm like, bro, you already told you that this bitch left us for dead. At that point, I had suffered an ACL injury and I couldn't work as much and this bitch left. I had to pick up her side to rent. And you talking to me about her feelings? Are you serious?

Mind you, in the meantime, this bitch, she had lied about why she was calling to begin with. She was actually calling because the friend that had left me was talking about she needed my help in court to testify against someone and I'm like what the fuck are you even talking about?

Come to find out y'all, she wanted me to testify against her ex and her ex's man. And what happened was, I'm sorry y'all, them two was very toxic together, abusive and eventually the ex left.

for the man in question anyways she was trying to spin it that she got assaulted y'all by her ex and her man when literally weeks before she bragged about having a threesome with them i'm so serious y'all like no

Summing up, ex-friend leaves, leaves the leaves in my hand. The second friend calls me to help ex-friend lie on two other people because she's jealous of their new relationship. And then when I didn't agree to all this bullshit, guess what happened? Guess what happened, y'all?

This second friend who had called me to help lie then turns around and says I am a bad friend for trying not to break the law, but especially not for someone who broke the fucking lease. Like this two double negatives.

So then anyway, I told her to take that shit back. She didn't want to. She said eat something even more trifling. I can't really remember what it was because I blacked out, but to be clear, I lost two friends, her and that other ex bitch.

There's not really moral to the story here, but I would say if I had to add one, stop putting men that are temporarily here above lifelong friends, and also stop being toxic exes when your ex leaves, like, it's done.

She used to understand me in such a way that my family also didn't understand me. Even me, myself, I also don't know the things about myself that she knows about me. So she was there.

So she was that much close to me. Now I just pray every day that things get normal and we become friends again. I just spoiled everything.

I'll be honest, it sounds like, well, from what you literally just told me, it didn't sound too healthy that you think she knew you more than you knew yourself. Like, no one knows you more than you, and you should know that.

I've learnt if people are genuinely meant to be in your life, now they would be. There is always a reason why people disappear, and if they're truly a friend they wouldn't have disappeared in the first place.

The thing is I really want and like these kind of friends in my life who will understand and know me more than myself who will protect me in every way so yeah

Also I understood what what you said but sometimes you know it's very rare some people are there who really got stuck and they can't even move on in their life they actually need

I understand where you're coming from when you're really like stuck on this person that you really cared about but you just have to keep reassuring yourself that they're not as great as you think they are if they're not here.

And they didn't even have the entire context of the story. They were just passing judgment, being belittling, condescending, very arrogant and just naive. So they had to go.

I loved them both so I didn't want to choose and I actually didn't choose he just stopped being friends with me and my other bestie he moved away and slowly

More of the story is her baby daddy was obsessed with me and she made it look like I wanted him so she actually lied for him. But it was more to it so yeah I'm kind of glad it ended. It was a 12 year friendship but I'm glad it's over.