I was having a conversation with my girl and a superman negotiables and we spoke about this before on this platform but one thing I didn't touch on is one of my nonnegotiable is the fact that I can't be with someone if they are not open to therapy or counselling they're both kind of the same thing but you know just because of my experience with my ex-boyfriend I feel like he was someone he was carrying around his trauma and his mentality was very much this is who I am and shit happens this is life whatever happens in life you just deal with it on your own and I thought that meant it was so that I'm so sorry but Really told me that I can't be with someone who isn't willing already to unpack and that doesn't mean I'm back with me like I said like therapy counselling therapy has always work for other people but I mean I don't work for everyone but I just think you have to be someone who is willing to find help regardless if that makes sense and do the work you know and I just feel like he was very against it but I would love to know what are your non-negotiables especially after it expires he's probably been in
No, I definitely agree because therapy, especially talking to someone kind of shows your emotional vulnerability and your emotional growth. And if you're not even open to therapy down the line or counseling, that just kind of shows where you are in your emotional state.
I agree Hun because at the end of that you've got a think about it like what is the marriage counselling we might have to do couples counselling are you gonna tell me you're not up for any of that and you kind of just think we have to figure out ourselves or it it it is what it is I just hate people like that just like the growth the lack of growth mindset is so poor
You know I personally think everybody could benefit from therapy it's just a greater perspective of somebody who's trying to listen and say no you don't have to burn your friends or family with problems that maybe you're not comfortable talking about
Exactly that is it is available for well I think it's good for everyone whether you're in a relationship whether you're married or anything any stage of your life like it's just good to be open to bring and I think it's whether you think you're traumatised or not it's great
I agree a lot with this. I think it's yeah, sure therapy might not be for everyone but at least like having the mentality of like yeah, I'm willing to try and make a change here because we're all like evolving people and if you can't see that you're gonna be stuck in a rut and I think Having those people in your life is just very draining because they would just end up in one place and not try to go any further but having that sort of mentality.
of wanting to evolve and wanting to get better and work on yourself is so inspiring first of all but it is also very attractive to be fair because it shows and proves a very deep level of emotional maturity which I think is very important as well in order to build deep connections So, yeah, if you're a person that works on yourself, then I think for sure you should have a partner that does the same.
Yeah I think it's off the basis of you know at least you tried as opposed to ruling it out straight away that's not growth mindset in my opinion and I just can't mess with someone like that because I am someone who is willing to you know look in the mirror and say you know what do I need to work on and how can I be a better friend partner sister you know whatever
And I hundred percent agree on the attractiveness is just so I imagine he's put in time and effort to be the best version of himself is the best energy ever