So anyway, some guys are like that. They somehow feel emasculated by you doing things like that or giving them gifts And it might have to do with them like being like, oh, I'm a man. I can afford my own shit or blah blah blah I don't even know but I can't I can't be with someone like that because I am a gift giver and That is a love language for me both giving and receiving gifts So fuck a guy who whose ego will not allow him to let you do things for him

But no, yeah. That's not emasculating It's just a fucking dickhead. That's all he was He... The emasculating thing is that he was rude to you But I'm sure he never realised that because he's an egotistical bastard it sounds like.

Bro that guys like insecure or something because that's the first I've heard that that's happened and that's wild

Yo, it was weird as fuck because he made such a point of letting me know that he thought it was laughable. Like, he literally stopped, he was like, scoffed, looked me up and down. Also, as if to like say that he was also judging me in that moment. Like, dude, I don't care if you think I'm fuckable or not. Literally, I'm just, okay. And, okay, I have to say this other thing. I am very kind of paranoid about holding doors for people because stay tuned for new memo.

When I was a freshman in high school, I went on a field trip with my high school jazz band in which we toured the Olympic training facility in Colorado. Now, we were like going through these buildings kind of single file and because it was jazz band, there was like different aged people in the group and there was this really hot senior boy in front of me. No, behind me, sorry. And after a couple like going through doorways, he stopped me and he was like, that's like the fourth door you've just dropped on me. and I was so embarrassed.

Because he was this hot dude who would never otherwise speak to me. And he was calling me out for being fucking rude and oblivious to the fact that every door I walked through, I was just dropping the door on him. Because as a girl, I guess I'd never been conditioned to hold doors for people. And so now I was like, oh, that's a thing you do. When you go outdoors, you hold them for people. Now here I am, you know, 15 years later and some man's laughing in my fucking face for holding a door for him. again.

Oh my gosh I was literally rolling my eyes in both of your stories I get the nerve of these guys like you ignore them they get mad you do stuff for them they get mad but I just hope at the end of the day you just keep opening doors for people cause I don't know I feel like that's that's the nice A kind citizen thing to do right

It's such a nice guestroom when you do something for somebody you know holding the door for them or and you know helping them to get to another place I think it's really kind and kindness is what we need in the world today so definitely courage you to do that definitely and ignore what people say or do

That's why I wanted to ask the question if people find a weird because there's a lot of guys who find a weird just because they feel like they are the man so I was like I wonder what people think about this whole question whole situation am I the only one I'm glad you're in the isn't the only one out there

I agree I think it's so strange and so weird for men to act like that it's like dude like you get you want to be a man but stuff like that is so strange I've always like it excepting it so I think it's great

Hi Hawaiian thank you for responding to the soundbite especially you being a man and saying that you appreciate gifts that's amazing and like to see that more definitely definitely

And not to mention, you know, I mean, if she likes to give that much, it might lead to something else, you know. Wait, what?

Hey Thomas Watkins thank you for responding to my son please I'm glad to hear your side and how do you feel about gifting much love to you Jamie

Hey Christiana I agree with you on that I think it's a nice show of appreciation I hope he does like it and yes I think you have to get to know the persons love language

Hi Alice thank you for responding to my soundbite much love to you and I definitely agree with you I feel like sometimes it's a little awkward to give back just because I don't want to make them feel like any type less of a masculine than they are so I was like I wonder if anyone else feels this type of way

I definitely love to give and giving is part of my personality so when I do get it's from love caring in a providing and definitely it isn't to make anybody feel less than what they are but to show appreciation and love to my man