Oh if you really think about it it's not because they might be more interested in their Snapchat it's also could be social anxiety I could be that nervous so maybe if you communicate and be like hey why don't we just for dinner phones focus on you and me but if you're not man enough to do that then that's gonna Do you know

I really appreciate you bringing up this perspective because I have heard this from other people as well, guy or girl, that their date was on their phone the entire time and they found that a hit to their self-confidence and a bunch of other things that, you know, it's disrespectful as well, you know what I mean? But I do know that some people have social anxiety, but yeah, to be on their phone the whole time, oh, that's so awkward.

I just responded to the guy that you responded to so I'm going to address you as well because I really appreciate you sharing your two cents on this situation because I have definitely been on my phone and I had social anxiety waiting for a date to happen but I felt like when the date did happen I didn't need my phone as much but I'm not going to dismiss other people feeling nervous because you're right social anxiety is a real thing so I really appreciate you commenting it means a lot.

This is true. I work at AmeriCorps, which is like a debt relief company, so I'm on the phone with people all day, every day, and 90% of them have mental breakdowns because of social anxiety. And sometimes I don't want to do it because of social anxiety. I understand that it's a very real thing, but like, what I'm trying to get at is we could be having dinner or something like that, mid-conversation, and then she'll be on her phone for like 20 minutes.

I'm not gonna lie to you, and tell you that I also haven't done the same thing. Not on a date, but like, at a party. I'll be on my phone 90% of the time, because I don't particularly like parties, but I get invited to them, and I'm too nice to say no. That's not the point. Um, I think I'm gonna have to make a second message for this.

Okay, so this is the third time of me responding because Stereo is stupid. I tried to click on your name, it's not working. But you said that it would take a hit on someone's self-confidence. Not so much me, because my two main goals in a date are to try to get to know this person, see if I want to continue pursuing them, and making sure that they're having as fun of a time as I am. So seeing them on their phone kind of makes me feel like I'm not doing something right.

Also, I would like to thank you for allowing this civil conversation. I feared that this would go south very quickly, it in fact did not, so I appreciate that. Thank you.

Oh wow, thank you so much for putting in all that time and energy into not only answering me back, but someone else here on the thread because there are definitely going to be people listening in, and what you said is incredibly important. And also, you are very welcome that this is a civil conversation space, because that's my intention and even though my page is called Girl Talk, there are a lot of guys who do contribute to these conversations. So I really appreciate your perspective, and I hope you have a great rest of your week.

You know what? I genuinely appreciate that. Thank you.