So something I've learned in a very valuable way is that people cannot read your mind and So it's really important to speak up because you know I used to let people walk all over me and you know I try to be a major people please or like make sure everyone's okay But you know you got to take care of yourself too. So yeah important to speak up But I'm now wanting to know what is the most valuable lesson you've learned from a relationship with either an ex or a former friend So yeah, let me know.