I can respect that wholeheartedly I get it it does depend on people's experiences so I'm with you on that

I grew up very disconnected from people because of the whole Toughlove thing and now I have issues connecting with people so it should be assessed in every individual

And like I said I have issues I have trust issues I have codependency issues because of the emotional unavailability of the people who raise me who were supposed to be the leading example of what love really is

And now instead of driving you know under the support of a loving family or friends I have to figure shit out on my own and I'm really just trying to do the work to see that the world isn't so hard and an emotional

Let me go on record saying that I feel for you and I understand where you're coming from but at the same token you can't expect people to sugarcoat everything

I can definitely understand that you have trust issues when it comes to being emotionally unavailable but at the same token. People have to be real raw and authentic with you in order for you to understand.

I'm not saying that you should take the harsh words because they shouldn't be harsh with what they're saying But at the same token you can't expect them to sugarcoat what they're saying to you. They have to be real about it.