we were just never on the same page like and not in a toxic way. It's like for example, originally when we got together, I was amazing at communication, he wasn't. He was totally anti being vulnerable, right? He has his own reasons for that, but like years later we had our, we had two different situations came out of it. I developed trust issues, so I was like way more quiet, way less communicative and he went to therapy during that time and became an amazing communicator, he was so verbal, so vulnerable, it was just weird.