Keep the dating relationship short enough to where you get to know each other enough and you fall in love, but then commit to each other. Don't wait forever to commit to each other, because the momentum in the relationship can be lost. And I don't know how true that is, but that's the piece of advice I've been given. And the rest of the advice...

The rest of the advice that I received is the bulk of the relationship isn't going to be in the dating relationship part. It is going to be in the line of building a life together, doing life together, you know, and that the falling in love will continue to be even after the engagement and the marriage happens and that's the way it should be and we shouldn't want to delay that.

Even though I have received this advice in the past, it has been difficult for me to apply this advice for several reasons. One main reason being is that my ex-husband, I only dated and knew him for one month before we got engaged. Almost three months later, we got married and it wasn't a good situation. And I don't want that to happen again. Definitely not.

So the dating part doesn't scare me, it's committing to someone that could hurt me, that scares me. And even though I know this person's advice that I shared before my last comment, before this one, I know that their advice is sound. I mean, they live and breathe it every single day, they've been married for like 50 years. And they only knew their partner for a short amount of time before they got engaged.

And even though, like, their advice is tried and tested and it's been found to be true, I still have that doubt in the back of my mind, like, would I be safe? So I think I just need to probably heal a little bit more and then just let the universe guide my steps, you know? You know, go with the ebb and flow and not try to dictate anything. So cheers to you.